10 strategies I used over the weekend to pick up a smoking hot Exotic dancer!
So I am sure that at some point you have wondered how to attract, seduce and date Exotic Dancers, which are the ultimate challenge within the “Hired Gun Game” area for most men.
Well it’s not as hard as you think. From my vast experience in attracting and seducing “hired guns” including exotic dancers, adult entertainers, waitresses, store clerks, etc I have formulated a system of things to do to successfully and consistently get these types of women that men can only drool over and dream about to dream about me and want to be with me, sexually.
I am going to show you how to do that using 10 simple strategies and demonstrate how using these strategies, I successfully picked up a smoking hot, very intelligent, African/Quebecois French exotic dancer on July 30th, 2011 at a famous strip club in Toronto called “Whiskey A Go Go”.
BTW In case you are doubting me, here is a snippet of an actual BBM convo between me Omar Khan and the exotic dancer from Whiskey A Go Go with the BBM alias HBD Andy.
Omarkhan: Can you see this
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: Hey !!!! :p
Omarkhan: Cone say bye to me before I leave after your stage performance
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: Was nice seeing u! Smiley
Omarkhan: Yes same here
Omarkhan: I’m Omar
Omarkhan: So when you come bacxk let’s do tea or coffee okay
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: For sure i’ll let u know when I come bck! ;Wink
Omarkhan: Okay so how much longer you working at Pro Cafe tonight
Omarkhan: I don’t like it it is dead
Omarkhan: I like Whiskey
Omarkhan: So your name is Marie
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: Yes Marie-XXXXXXXX!
Omarkhan: Oui oui non amee
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: It’s toooooo dead…(=|
Omarkhan: Yes it is
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: Maybe i’ll leave earlier to go to mtl
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: *montreal
Omarkhan: How you getting there
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: Yes i’m bored and tired
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: No driving!
Omarkhan: You or you have a driver
Omarkhan: K msg me when you’re back
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: We are driving me and my girl
Omarkhan: Have a safe trip
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: (y) thx
Omarkhan: Too bad you couldn’t spend time having a coffee or something with me you would have had a blast
HBD Andy !!! <=-P \=D/ <=-P: Ya I know its just that I have things to do in Montreal when I come bck we’ll catch up! Smiley
So here are the top 10 strategies to picking up smoking hot exotic dancers!
1. An exotic dancer is deified by most men. Guys at the strip club scream for her, shout for her, beg her to give them some attention, cry like children for her poster(If she is a feature) as she is on the stage dangling it in front of the crowd like a carrot in front of a room full of Rabbits. She will often say “The one who screams the loudest for me or makes the most noise can have this poster”. Low and behold all you hear is a wave of “Loudness” from these desperate chumps.
They get NO respect however or play. They are seen as “Cash Cows” and “Customers” That is all. Why? Because they fed into that “Customer-Hired Gun” social dynamic that she so cleverly set up for herself, to maximize her profit potential.
So rule 1. If you want to stop being the “Customer” and start being the “1 in a million” that an Exotic Dancer or any adult entertainer for that matter will want to cross the business, personal line with, stop treating her as a Goddess or Sex Object.
Start talking to her as a human being, a woman who has a mind, intelligence, values, a viscera and personal interests outside of someone who shows off her body for money.
Also, remember that you need to “give value” first to a woman before she gives value to you in the form of her time, sex, a relationship with her, etc
You are taking value from her because in the context of the Strip Club Game, who is getting most of the value? You are. You are taking value from her, by asking her to dance for you, get naked for you, by asking her out, by buying her drinks which is usually in hopes of getting some a bit later. All this is designed to please you and give you value. What unique “value” are you offering her? Nothing.
Buying her drinks, paying for a lap dance, screaming for her at stage side is just fueling that “Cash Cow” label that she has put on you automatically. You are doing nothing different for her than what other scores of men are doing. Furthermore that is not a good enough reason for her to want to cross that line from seeing you as another loser, Joe-blow customer to a sexually attractive, unique, potential lover.
Therefore, you MUST add value to her to get her to want to see you off the record and off her working premises. How do you do that?
1. DO NOT kiss her ass or worship her but be dominant with her, a leader, take charge.
2. Have superior knowledge to most men. Teach her things about her self, the world, business, sex, her body, psychology, geography, culture, religion. I kid you not when I tell you that Exotic Dancers find “Worldliness” super sexy. They tend to also go for men that are very Alpha, confident, dominant, business savvy, worldly, educated, etc. So be this and not another stupid, blue collar talking and walking a-hole with nothing to offer. Educate yourself.
3. Never ask an exotic dancer for a dance or for anything that will generate profit for her, through an interaction with you. The minute you do that, you will forever be tossed in the “Loser, customer” pile. Instead, the minute an exotic dancer asks you “Hey baby, you want a dance?”, immediately ignore the fact that she even said that and start to make a comment about her energy, palm structure, teach her things, etc. In other words, dominate the conversational threads and steer them towards the direction that you want to take them. She will be interested and challenged and will not only become attracted to you rather than your wallet but will appreciate you.
Okay moving on to Rule 2.
2. This is how I get an exotic dancer’s attention all the time. If I am by the bar ordering a drink and an exotic dancer comes and stands or sits on the bar chair next to me(This is done intentionally to get my attention), I will act as if she doesn’t exist. I will look over her head, around both sides of her face and smile at imaginary people. She will be surprised and also now challenged by my lack of interest in her to “try to get it” and as we know when you challenge a woman who is not usually, it will naturally attract her.
3. An exotic dancer will always try to shit test you. You must learn how to pass it. For instance before I picked up the Exotic dancer over the weekend, I was first introduced to her friend who was a Filipina-mix-with-German hot number.
During one moment, she said to me “I’m thirsty”, after kissing me a few times on my face. I knew she expected me to buy her a drink or two.
She kissed me because she asked me how I was doing and I said I was in pain because I do boxing, fighting training. BTW state your manliest and most attractive traits to these types of women as they typically like real Alpha, dominant men who are a bit rough around the edges.
Anyways in response to her statement that she was thirsty and knowing that she expected me to say “Oh okay baby, what do you want to drink?” I said to her, “Well there is a homeless guy outside and I can see if he will lend you some of his water”.
She knew that she couldn’t get pass me and that attracted her even more because after her water came from the bartender(From the tap, not even a water bottle), she made me touch her body and said “I have pain here, what do you think?”
So I gave her advice on how to subdue it as I know how to combat sports injury. That further demonstrated that I was worldly and knowledgeable. At this point her girlfriend spotted me being so laid back against the bar, not being phased by her girlfriend in any way, just doing my own thing on my terms and she automatically started talking with me and introduced herself.
4. Exotic Dancers like a “badboy-with a dash of Gentleman”. For instance, ”Sky”, the Exotic Dancer I met on Friday July 20th, 2011 at one strip club (Whiskey A Go Go) and later attracted and whose contact info I procured told me she was going to be at another strip club before heading back to Montreal, Que on Mon which was Pro Cafe. I told her I would see her, before she left.
At this point in time, I did not solidify contact info. I was just talking with her, teaching her things about France, Quebec, Africa, psychology, conspiracy theories etc all the while leaning against the bar with her, acting cool, relaxed. Anyways I told her I had to go but I would see her at Pro Cafe. Well I found out what time she was working at Pro Club until which was 9 pm, so I ventured in there at about 8:30. The reason for this is because I wanted to give her the feeling that it was the last thing I wanted to do on my day of events not the first and truthfully it was. You don’t want to telegraph desperation by barging in to the club just when it opens waiting for Diamond or Cocoa to show up, if you know what I mean? Good.
The point I was trying to make here is that when you say you are going to do something, be somewhere then do it. I kept my word and that showed a lot of character and class. She literally left two guys she was sitting with and having a drink with to come and hug me for 10 minutes as if she was my girl. She must have told me at least 10 times, “I can’t believe you are here. Oh my god! I love a man with class and integrity”. Yes, exotic dancers love a man who makes them feel special, especially if they like him! Note that down!
At this point I simply rebuilt the attraction with her by touching her hands, arms in a very sensual but appropriate way and pushing her away by saying. “K go make some money. I like a woman who knows how to work it. Otherwise I will be your pimp and manage your business operations”. She started to laugh.
After a few more interchanges like this, I got her contact info. She BBM’d me saying “It was great to see you and I will let you know when I am back so we can meet outside of work”.
Once again, the reason why I was able to differentiate myself to this beautiful adult entertainer is because
1) I demonstrated dominance and confidence, by the way I was unreactive to her friend’s sexual charm and manipulation earlier. Her friend was known to literally be a master manipulator of men and I saw the way she persuaded 4 guys to open their wallets to her.
2) She was impressed by the fact that, when I initially met her, I was very polite, respectful, was looking at her and not her body.
3) I told her that I had met many Exotic Dancers and was not impressed with simply beauty but intelligence and personality and so because she was organic, mature and intelligent, I was sticking around to talk to her and not because of her looks or body.
4) I made her laugh with impersonations, role playing, taught her many things about the world, her body, psychology, etc which blew her mind away.
5) Never entertained the thought of paying her even 1 cent for her time. It was more like, I was the higher value member in the interaction and it was in her best interest to want to hang with me. Not the other way around and that is exactly how I was treated and responded to.
5. Exit on a high note and catch up later. Always leave an exotic dancer wanting more and then when you show up again her reaction will mimic the one I got from Sky. Never over welcome your stay as it will telegraph that you have nothing nor anyone to do in your life which is a Beta quality. Be the multi-faceted Alpha male who has a ton of interesting things, people to DO(wink!) in life besides her.
6. The best position to be in at the strip club is legs wide open, resting your foot on either side of a bar stool, Cowboy style, leaning back. This is a more attractive position to be in than standing by the wall with 9 other loser guys like a sardine, all desperately waiting for a stripper to come by and give them a glance. Also, the strip club I go to only seats high rollers on the bar stools. Meaning you will find members of the Hells Angels, Mafia Boss type characters, bad ass mofo looking characters, bouncers when on their dinner break, etc sitting at the bar so that area has an association with higher social order.
7. Behind the bar there are big screen TV’s where they broadcast and display Boxing or MMA fights so I will deliberately sit with my back to the dance floor and to the strippers walking the floor. Think about what that conveys. Of course. I am not desperate for honey. This inevitably attracts the women to tap me on the shoulder and say “Hey sexy, what you don’t like what you see?”, etc.
8. Most strip clubs have “outdoor patios where you can smoke” since you can’t smoke inside such establishments anymore. Well many exotic dancers go out there for poisonous air(To smoke a cigarette) or just to grab some fresh air. Great place to get them while they are relaxed, calm, open to talking. Once again, you need to understand the importance of logistics in seduction, meaning where to go, what to do, where not to go, what to talk about at a certain phase of the courtship process, how to isolate a woman without creeping her out, where to take her after 1 hour of interaction vs 4 hours, etc…
9. Dress a bit Bad Boyish in a strip club as Exotic Dancers, very much like fighting Ringside girls love a man who is a bit rough around the edges with his style and persona. I see too many guys dress in a typical geeky shirt-n-pant combo which is not very manly or oversized clothes which is just plain juvenile. One of my looks when I go out is that of a “Fighter”
For instance, when I was out at Whiskey A Go Go I wore
Faded Grey, straight legged jeans, biker books with fire trails on them. Thank you Harley Davidson
A belt with a thick belt buckle
Long sleeve, black body hugging top
A thick silver neck chain with a skull pendant dangling from it
Plus you need to wear nice cologne. It attracts women . Trust me when I tell you this
A couple of my favorite brands are
Terry D’Hermes, Yves St Laurent, Burberry and Bulgari
10. Keep moving in the club. DO NOT station yourself in one spot. It conveys that you settle and you wait for things. Walk around, make eye contact with people, other guys, girls(Yes there are women who also go to these places, usually with a party of people or with their BFs), the waitresses, other exotic dancers. It conveys a hunter mentality and also that you are dynamic, have energy, are interesting, don’t settle, get bored easily, need to be amused constantly. This does work to your advantage in this environment in particular.
Hope this helps
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